How about instead of what your friends would say, what your enemies would say? And if all your friends would say you're handsome and all the ladies would say you're a great kisser, how many men does that leave who are not handsome and kiss like ducks? Couldn't be many. What if every man is a great kisser and I have dated 89 men and only 3 ranked in the top 100? Have I missed out on the odds? If so many of you love to take long walks on the beach why am I the only one there every day? Is there a specific time you hang out you want I should know about? 
I must just be the rare loser.  I don't seem to be seeing the perfection these men portend in their profiles! 
Am I meeting them at an "off" time in their lives?